Summer (self) Lovin’

Here at Mission: Mindfulness HQ we’ve been trying, as best we can with ‘threenager’ twins in the mix, to slow down this summer.

To take things a little easier.

Prioritising ‘slower-living’ at the very least, as the ‘slow-living’ lane isn’t quite within our grasp just yet.

This means, of course, that there have been, and will continue to be for a few more weeks, less blog posts, less Facebook updates and less Insta interaction.

However, I couldn’t resist a little post encouraging readers to remember to keep practicing self-compassion during these long, hot days.

It’s so easy to prioritise loved ones and friends at this time.  The days become about activities with the little ones, and the evenings are for socialising more, while the nights are warm and light, or alternatively crawling into bed early due to exhaustion.

The summer holidays are certainly a chance for parents to be more present in their children’s lives – to play together, listen more attentively, and be with them.

However, the summer holidays are also a time when parents can feel like they’re losing their identity a little.  Lost somewhere among all the bread being buttered, the squabbles being diffusing and kitchens being constantly wiping down (or is that just me?!).

That’s why, as well as having a list of places to go this summer and a list of people to see; it’s a good idea to have a self-care list too.

This August my self-care list includes:

  • approximately 20 minutes of formal mindfulness practice most days
  • to get a decent amount of sleep (I’m aiming for 7 ish hours)
  • to do some physical exercise most days (something for me like pilates or a run)
  • a digital detox for a run of consecutive days

I also intend to be in front of the camera a bit more.  Instead of being behind it all the time.

You see I was reminded of Instagram movements like #putyourselfinthepicture and #mamaintheframe when my sister offered to take a photo of me with the kids and my Dad last week.

Now,  usually I would decline having my photo taken in a swimming costume.  But on this occasion, rather than internally (I would not vocalise these thoughts in front of the children) running through of all the negatives about my appearance, I chose to have the photo taken in order to celebrate a lovely family day at the beach.  Every photo is helping to develop a bit more self-love too.  It’s me telling myself ‘I am worthy to be in a picture’.  I’m choosing to do this this summer instead of reinforcing the self-critical channels in my mind that are so strong anyway and need no more help to be strengthened.  So if you see a few more photos of me popping up, it’s me practicing a little self-compassion and celebration.

Summer self-lovin’ if you will.

3 children, their Mum and Grandfather posing for a photo on a beach

We did get a fab photo of all of us looking at the camera but as I don’t share shots like that on the blog here is one of the pics that was taken when the kids weren’t looking ;-).

So here’s to more family photos with everyone in them this summer.

And here’s to a summer of self -love, self-compassion and self-kindness, call it what you will, as well as family fun too.

Have a good few weeks everyone.  I’ll pop back soon.

handwritten Hayley

 

19 Comments

  1. October 6, 2018 / 8:54 am

    lovely post. It’s so true, we do lose ourselves a bit during school holidays. I should take a leaf out of your book next time around xx

  2. October 6, 2018 / 11:10 am

    I agree with digital detoxing #thesatsesh

  3. October 6, 2018 / 12:08 pm

    Hope the autumn self-lovin’ is going well too! #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      October 7, 2018 / 10:01 pm

      hee hee – yes it is thanks! I had to post something from a few weeks ago as I haven’t written a post for a couple of weeks!

  4. October 6, 2018 / 2:18 pm

    Some changes loke getting enough sleep and excuse can really make you feel better about yourself X #thesatsesh

  5. October 6, 2018 / 2:35 pm

    100% agree we do need to put ourselves in the picture. I find the summer holidays difficult as I do find it hard to find time solely for me. This year the 6 weeks just seemed to dash by too. #thesatsesh

  6. October 7, 2018 / 1:43 am

    I’ve gotten back into the gym since the kids have gone to school. It’s wonderful!!

    • onamindfulmummymission
      October 7, 2018 / 9:58 pm

      Oooh now that does sound good!

  7. October 7, 2018 / 11:56 am

    Putting myself in front of the lens is something I’m conscious I need to do more of. We have very few photos of me and even fewer of all five of us. Should I be run over by the proverbial bus tomorrow, it would be a shame for the kids not to have more pictures of me. #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      October 7, 2018 / 9:58 pm

      This is exactly my worry too Tim! Definitely need more family pics! Thanks for the speedy comment 🙂

  8. October 7, 2018 / 2:12 pm

    I hope October self-lovin is going well too 🙂 and so true about being in front of the camera too – we only have ones of the kids! #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      October 7, 2018 / 9:57 pm

      Hee hee – yes it is thank you!

  9. October 7, 2018 / 4:28 pm

    Sorry to sound like I am disagreeing with you, but I used to love the long summer school holidays, I was a registered child minder and this was my busiest time, I loved every minute and so did the children #,satsesh@_karendenbid199@gmail iz

  10. mackenzieglanville
    October 10, 2018 / 12:00 pm

    I truly love the feel of this post, it’s uplifting and full of great self love. We do tend to be behind the camera as mums don’t we. I have been doing mindful meditation most mornings and every night. It has become my bed time ritual and it is helping me get a much better sleep. I did a Body Balance class today, a mix of yoga, Thi chi, pilates and meditation, I must admit my flexibility and strength need work, but I feel proud of myself for doing it. Keep taking care of yourself beautiful, lots of love to you xx

    • onamindfulmummymission
      October 11, 2018 / 7:57 am

      Thanks Mac for such kind words. I think the body balance class sounds great – you should really feel proud of yourself for doing it. xx

  11. October 11, 2018 / 10:46 am

    The list you’ve set yourself sounds great. You also seem to recognise what works for you. I prefer dancing personally. I once read that if we look into the camera with love then we achieve a better capture. #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      October 19, 2018 / 8:27 pm

      Oooh yes that makes sense! What wonderful advice. I love dancing too! Xx

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