On Your 18th Birthday

Dear K

So you are 18!  An adult.

I have so many special memories of spending very happy times with you in your childhood that I wanted to mark this important Birthday.

After all I would cuddle, feed, play with you long before I had my own children.

I know I’ve always been one to give you advice so I thought why change a habit of a lifetime?!

Not only is there the advice that I wrote in your card here- the stuff I wish I’d known when I was 18, but there is also some hints and tips about living life as an adult from some blogger friends too :-).  Enjoy!

Couple dancing first dance at wedding being joined by little girl

You are enough.

Your warmth and intelligence add to any room, wherever you are, whoever you are with.

Meeting new people? Worried what to say?

Just ask them some questions about themselves.  Everyone loves talking about themselves so the conversation will flow in no time.

Be true to yourself.

Feeling uneasy about doing something?  Then don’t do it.

That said, don’t be afraid to push yourself out of your comfort zone.

Disagreeing with someone is not the same as having an argument with them.

We don’t have to agree with loved ones all the time.  People can politely agree to disagree.

Pay off your credit cards EVERY MONTH.

Don’t get into debt unless it’s a mortgage that you can afford.

Enjoy EVERY stage of your life.

Don’t be in a rush to get to the next one.

Your mind is a wonderful thing but can easily play tricks on us.

Don’t believe everything you think.

Speak to yourself as a kind friend would.

If in doubt return to #1.

You are enough.

Words of Wisdom from other bloggers:

Sophie from Old House in the Shires says “Don’t be afraid of the world or the people in it.  We teach our children about being wary of strangers but every friend was once a stranger…just be careful but get out there…the world is wonderful!”

Catie from Spectrum Mum comments:  “I wish at 18 someone had told me not to worry so much about my imperfections.  To embrace and accept myself for exactly who I am.  Not to feel pressure to fit in or to camouflage myself but just to have the strength and courage to be 100% me.  The people who matter will support you and love you unconditionally.  You don’t have to be perfect, just be real, just be you!”

Lucy from What My Fridge Says advises:

“Travel more….last minute, planned, epic, fun.

Love hard and don’t worry about the consequences.

Buy the shoes.  Always buy the shoes.

They aren’t worth it.  Let it go.

Spend time with your older relations, they aren’t as invincible as you think.

…Buy the shoes :-)”

Susie from This is Me Now says:  “I wish someone had told me never to feel like you have to apologise for being you.  Even if you feel different, just trust yourself and be who you are.  Don’t try to be someone you’re not.  We are all different and to your family and friends you are awesome…And yep always buy the shoes….and chocolate….and handbags!”

Alana from Burnished Chaos adds:  “My main piece of advice would be to trust your instincts and make sure you are following YOUR dreams and no one else’s.  You don’t have to have it all figured out, live in the present to be happy NOW.”

Beth from Twinderelmo advises “embrace no responsibilities of mortgages and children and see the world! It’s the only time you can do it guilt free .

Kate from Ever After With Kids comments “embrace your own version of beauty. We all have it. The sooner you learn to see yours the happier you will be.”

Anna from Midwife Mama Bear  advises “trust yourself, you are wiser than you think. Stand up for what you believe in and work hard at it.”

Lady holding a newborn baby - her niece

Wishing you lots of love, fun, happiness and health in adulthood darling.


handwritten Hayley

Two Tiny Hands




  1. April 15, 2018 / 9:29 pm

    Lovely, lovely, lovely Hayley! Well done for such a great post and thank you for including me. Xx

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 15, 2018 / 10:09 pm

      Awww thanks Sophie, that’s so kind and thank you for your contribution xx

  2. Catie
    April 15, 2018 / 10:35 pm

    Oh my lovely friend you are so insightful, caring and wise! Amazing post and Thank you for
    Including me. 💕

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 16, 2018 / 11:00 am

      Awwww Catie – it is you that is all of these things – you kind, kind soul. I think you guys make this post with all your fabulous advice – K has properly heard me banging on about al the other stuff too often already for it to make an impact 😉 I deeply appreciate your lovely comment lovely lady. xxx

  3. April 16, 2018 / 6:57 am

    Haha this is so lovely. Also realised how contradictory life is. Hope she has a lovely eighteenth

  4. April 17, 2018 / 10:59 pm

    I wish someone had written me a note like this at 18 (or any other age!) The most true advice for me – that I took a LONG time to learn – is the one about being true to yourself, and not worrying what other people think. I still struggle with this and I’m creeping up on 40!

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 19, 2018 / 6:13 pm

      I know exactly what you mean Jess! Thanks for the comment xx

  5. twotinyhands
    April 19, 2018 / 1:45 am

    Aww what a lovely all the feels post! I look back on 18 and shudder a little. It was such an age of care free and I wouldn’t want to go back, with age comes a lot of k owledge that is spoken here. Becoming who you are is a right of passage and 18 this mistakes are there to fuddle through them! ‪Thank you for linking up to the #familyfunlinky‬

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 19, 2018 / 6:14 pm

      Good point Karen! Discovering some of these things for yourself is very important! xx

  6. April 19, 2018 / 10:21 am

    Where does the time go? #ABloggingGoodTime

  7. April 20, 2018 / 8:46 pm

    So much great advice here, I wish I’d been given something like this at 18. Thank you for including my ‘words of wisdom’ and thank you for joining the #FamilyFunLinky x

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 21, 2018 / 8:28 pm

      No problem – thank you for adding your comments xx

  8. April 21, 2018 / 7:45 am

    Love this. So many wise words. I wish someone had given me this on my 18th. I hope she had a fab birthday! #thesatsesh x

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 21, 2018 / 8:27 pm

      Thanks honey xx

  9. April 21, 2018 / 8:37 am

    Some great advice there, I’d probably tell myself something very very similar. Although I never ventured into credit cards, thanks be to god, I don’t spend money I don’t have. Debt scares me.

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 21, 2018 / 8:26 pm

      So right!

  10. April 21, 2018 / 10:18 am

    Lovely post! I can see myself turning into an emotional mess when the small one turns 18.

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 21, 2018 / 8:26 pm

      I know – I feel the same – I was very emotional about my niece as it was! xx

  11. April 21, 2018 / 10:40 am

    What a lovely post and some wise words too. My eldest turns 18 in a couple of months …… aaarrgghh how did that happen!! #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 21, 2018 / 8:25 pm

      Wow 18 – such a big deal. Thank you xx

  12. April 21, 2018 / 3:42 pm

    Such great advice. I wish someone had taken the time to tell me this when I was younger. It’s taken me a long time to figure some of that out for myself. #thesatsesh

  13. April 21, 2018 / 4:29 pm

    Beautiful messages. Particularly be true to yourself and enjoy every stage of life. Pay off credit card is very wise. #thesatsesh

  14. April 21, 2018 / 7:48 pm

    Aww I love this! I hope she had a great birthday. And yes ALWAYS buy the shoes!! #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 21, 2018 / 8:22 pm

      Thank you for the lovely comment xx

  15. April 21, 2018 / 8:48 pm

    So lovely. I am sure she will treasure those words. Definitely some great advice. Definitely the shoes should always be bought, but I also loved pay off the credit card every month. That is stirling advice, but still buy the shoes!!! #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 21, 2018 / 10:07 pm

      Hee hee – yes exactly! XX

  16. Mac
    April 22, 2018 / 6:19 am

    This really moved me, my first born nephew just turned 18 a week ago, I still call him my boy, he and his brother were the babies my hubby and I loved and watched over for years before we had our first and they will always be so precious to us. I wish someone had told me at 18 to follow my dreams and not someone’s else’s. I love this post xx Thank you for being part of #ablogginggoodtime

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 23, 2018 / 8:57 pm

      Thanks Mac – I know exactly what you mean about the babies you had before your own! xx

      • Mac
        April 25, 2018 / 1:15 pm

        popping back #thesatsesh

  17. emptynestmummy
    April 22, 2018 / 7:36 am

    A very very happy 18th birthday! And what great advice for an 18 year old. (and perhaps even for a 44 year old!) #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 23, 2018 / 8:55 pm

      Ha ha – yes things for us all to remember! xx

  18. Mummy Thomas' Blog
    April 28, 2018 / 9:12 am

    What a lovely post, great idea and great advice for an 18 Yr old In fact for an adult in general. Xx #satsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      April 28, 2018 / 8:45 pm

      I know what you mean! Thanks for the kind comment xx

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