Guest Post: Reflecting On A Month of Meditation

This week I have invited Jen from Tripping Through Treacle to take-over the blog.

Jen is a blogging buddy of mine but she is also a real life friend – we went to school (and a few teenage drunken parties :-)) together back in the 90s (goodness that makes me feel old!).

I vividly remember the time she told me about her MS diagnosis while we were at one of our friend’s Birthday parties.  I remember thinking how strong and remarkably positive she seemed about it.  So I wasn’t at all surprised to find that this comes across in her blog too.   It’s a document of her life juggling everything we all do – but on top of this she’s dealing with her MS too.  Its also a great resource for other sufferers of MS with loads of advice on it.

Recently Jen set herself a meditation challenge – to see if meditating every day would help her to feel more calm and in control.  Below she explains how the challenge went and what the results were.

water with ripples and stones and blog title - reflecting on a month of meditation

So over to Jen:

I set myself this challenge as I have meditated on and off in the past, but let it slip a bit… it is easy to get out of the habit I guess, especially when there are so many other things going on (work, kids, illness, fatigue…).  But I also know that when I devote myself to taking the time to meditate I feel so much better.  In a life where Secondary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis means that I live with stress, pain and uncertainty everyday, meditation has, in the past, let me take some time out just for me.  My body may feel like it is slowly falling apart but meditation makes me feel like my mind isn’t!

So, how did I get on?  Well, I am pleased to say that I have been keeping a bit of a running journal for my meditation and I have managed to complete 406 minutes of meditation over the month of January!  This was sitting down, focus on your breath meditation, not yoga meditation, which I also did a bit of.  Did I do the 20 minutes every day that I initially set out to do?  No.  Sometimes I did 10, sometimes I did 23, one time I did none.  But I did it, and that is all that matters.

Keeping a journal helped me to reflect on what kind of meditation works best for me:

“Day 3: Downloaded the Calm app and completed 23 minutes of meditation.  Had the background sound of nature and it helped me to get in the zone, pretending that I was at my sister-in-laws house in France overlooking Mont Blanc.  I meditated with just the nature sounds and it took me a few minutes to get into it, but as soon as I started counting my breaths in and out, it helped me to stay focused.  I noticed that at the end of the 23 minutes my breath was much slower than when I started and I felt much more calm”

So, what was the outcome?  I think the biggest thing that I have noticed is that I feel so much more calm.  I am much less likely to fly off the handle if the kids are being little monsters and I keep calm when others are starting to get a bit riled.  I have also noticed that it has made me really sensitive to other people arguing/raising their voice/being stressed, almost as if I want to try and keep the equilibrium and encourage everyone to take a deep breath and just calm down!

“Day 13: Completed meditation after work…so tired through.  I completed 10 minutes of the Calm app, thunderstorm sounds.  I notice that I am a lot calmer with the kids – much less likely to raise my voice and I am much more patient than before”

I have also noticed that I feel so much more mindful – I am really enjoying the time with my kids, savouring the cuddles and taking time to really listen to them.  I did this anyway, but I feel that the meditation challenge really helped me to properly appreciate the ‘little things’ even more than I already did. And I catch myself really concentrating during the most mundane activities – like chopping fruit – instead of rushing through, just to get things done as quickly as possible.

“Day 19: I did 15 minutes of meditation today.  I noticed when I cuddled the kids at their bed time, I really stopped and enjoyed the cuddle; usually I rush downstairs to start my ‘me time’, but I didn’t feel the need today”

How I Feel the Meditation Challenge Has Helped Me:

  • Reduced stress levels
  • Increased mindfulness – aware of how I react and really taking in ‘the little things’
  • Calmer with the kids – and just calmer in general!
  • Improved focus at work and when reading books
  • It’s made me really prioritise myself and specifically my mental health

Guided or Unguided Meditation?

For me, I think a bit of a mixture.  I definitely felt that guided meditation (where a person talks you through the meditation) had a place on my ‘busy’ days, particularly if I found that I could only find time right before bed – guided sleep countdown was my savior then.  But, after a bit of practice, I think that unguided suited me best.  Taking the time to truly concentrate on my breathing, without someone else’s voice getting in the way, helped me to really switch off.

Yoga for Meditation?

Yes!  I love the way that Yoga with Adriene really focuses on her breath whilst carrying out the poses and I found the perfect meditative yoga practice with her ‘Salve’ yoga; not too tricky with my mobility difficulties and an emphasis on self-care.

Yoga is a great way to get into meditation, I think, if you don’t fancy traditional sitting down meditation.

Favourite Apps?

The two that I tried for this meditation challenge were Headspace and Calm.  I loved them both!  I had already paid for Headspace, but got out the habit of using it.  This time around, I loved their sleep meditation and also incorporated some of their visualisation techniques that they offer in their ‘stress’ meditation into my own unguided meditation.   Headspace offer both guided and unguided meditation, short activities for kids to carry out to encourage relaxation and mindfulness and specific packages for your exact needs e.g. anxiety, anger, relationships and productivity, to name a few.

Calm was a new app for me.  I loved the fact that it offered many different sounds to meditate to, if I fancied unguided meditation and, like Headspace, it offers ‘packs’, such as ‘7 days of sleep’ and ‘7 days of happiness’.  It also offers ‘sleep stories’ to lull you into a restful sleep and I loved the ‘breath bubble’, which allows you to focus on your breathing in a specific way (e.g. breath in for 5 seconds, hold for 4, out for 4 seconds), to help you feel as calm as possible.

Both Headspace and Calm offer free meditation, but you also have the option to sign up and pay for access to the whole catalogue, so it is definitely worth trying both for free first and seeing which suits you best.

How To Meditate

Here is a post that gives you some ideas on how to meditate.  For me, I preferred to sit cross-legged, when it was quiet, with my hands on my lap.  I bought a candle, but didn’t use it!

My Top Tips for Meditation

  1. Have a go!
  2. Try different mediums – some people like guided, some unguided, some people prefer to take meditative walks, some prefer traditional ‘sitting down’ meditation.  I know someone who likes to listen to opera music and someone who doesn’t like any noise at all
  3. Count your breaths – Headspace advise counting from 1 to 10 and then starting again from 1 – breathe in (count 1) and breathe out (count 2).  I continually find myself using this technique to help me to stay focused
  4. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t stay focused.  It is absolutely natural for our minds to wander, the more we meditate the easier it is to bring it back to the breath (but some times are much harder than others!)
  5. Don’t give up – I definitely had days in my meditation challenge when I truly just couldn’t be bothered.  At these times I made myself do it and, you know what?  I was so glad I did.  I could feel the difference right afterwards in my mood… almost like I was holding on to stress that I didn’t know that I had before I did the meditation!  My father in law sent me a brilliant quote:

“You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes every day – unless you are too busy.  Then you should sit for an hour” – Zen proverb

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Well, I didn’t quite manage my 20 minutes every day, but I am so proud of what I achieved and can definitely feel a difference.

Jen’s commitment to meditation in January is impressive and she fluently explains how and why she did it.  This is a revised version of a post that appears on her blog and I was lucky enough to get a chance to write for her last week too.

I’d love to hear what your experiences of regular meditation are.

Follow Jen on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

handwritten Hayley

Bringing up Georgia

 

34 Comments

  1. March 6, 2018 / 8:55 pm

    Thank you so much for featuring me in a guest post Hayley! I have learnt so much from you and taken so much inspiration from you. Lots of love xxx

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 9, 2018 / 7:50 pm

      Awww that’s so lovely to hear Jen – and thank you! The post has been a big hit xx

  2. March 10, 2018 / 6:32 am

    Lovely to see that meditation has helped you in so many different ways! #thesatsesh

  3. emptynestmummy
    March 10, 2018 / 8:15 am

    Your beautifully written post has inspired me to try meditation too as a way to slow things down, be more in the moment and help me focus. Thank you so much! #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 10, 2018 / 4:42 pm

      Jen will be so chuffed to hear this! As am I – so pleased and good luck! xx

  4. Alice Letters to my Daughter
    March 10, 2018 / 8:28 am

    I love to meditate but tend to fall into the ‘too busy’ category. I am focusing on being more self disciplined at the moment though and will build some time for meditation into my routine. Thanks for the inspiration! #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 10, 2018 / 4:40 pm

      Yes it is definitely all about finding a regular time so that it becomes a a habit that everyone in the household knows is important for you. Good luck! xx

  5. March 10, 2018 / 9:24 am

    This is great! I have just started meditating so it’s great to read about how much of a positive effect it’s been having. The quote is fab! I always feel like I’m ‘too busy’ so the quote was a fab reminder to do what I set out to do instead of finding an excuse. X #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 10, 2018 / 4:39 pm

      I too love this quote and it comes to mind often for me. Pleased you are giving meditation a try. Good luck! xx

  6. March 10, 2018 / 9:33 am

    This is a really helpful read. I’ve often considered meditation but never fully committed to it. Thank you for sharing. #thesatsesh

  7. March 10, 2018 / 12:52 pm

    It is great to here the positive impacts of meditation and how it has helped with a chronical illness X #thesatsesh

  8. March 10, 2018 / 1:39 pm

    I have heard the calm app a few times this week. Might be time for me to check it out. #thatsatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 10, 2018 / 4:37 pm

      Definitely! xx

  9. March 10, 2018 / 1:47 pm

    this is not only an inspirational read but very helpful , realistic and practical… i come away feeling it is acheivable because there is no pressure there. Thanks #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 10, 2018 / 4:37 pm

      That’s great to hear, I’m sure Jen will feel the same. Thanks Berni. xx

  10. March 10, 2018 / 6:19 pm

    Great article. It’s interesting to hear other people’s experiences of mindfulness. #thesatsesh

  11. March 10, 2018 / 6:31 pm

    I was able to attend a simple meditation session just recently and it was great. I think if our mind is tired then so is our body. That’s why it’s important to let our minds relax every now and then and meditation helps a lot with that. #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 10, 2018 / 7:59 pm

      Excellent point! Thanks for commenting xx

  12. March 10, 2018 / 7:35 pm

    This is really inspiring! So lovely and interesting to see all those positives of meditation. Especially being more aware of others arguments etc. I might try it. #thesatsesh

  13. thesingleswan
    March 10, 2018 / 10:18 pm

    This is a great post. I have never really managed to get fully into meditation. I find that my mind wanders really easily. I love a bit of yoga though and find it easier to switch off if my mind is specifically focussed on something and my body is moving. Pen x #thesatsesh

  14. March 10, 2018 / 11:49 pm

    Massive fan of headspace app 🙂 I’ve found mediating has helped me so much with recent anxiety issues. It helps so much x

  15. March 10, 2018 / 11:50 pm

    Oppps forgot #thesatsesh 😘

  16. March 14, 2018 / 6:41 pm

    It’s fantastic that it made her feel much calmer. I feel I could benefit from it especially as we are currently going through a phase of eldest drawing on our walls! #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 14, 2018 / 7:31 pm

      Argggh – yes it would most probably help! xx

  17. March 14, 2018 / 9:38 pm

    #thesatsesh blooming love this!!! okay, I’m going to start journalling my meditation as a way to reflect and hopefully deepen my practise. Genius idea….also, yoga with Adrienne is a fab recommendation, i use her if i need a midweek boost…..off to meditate and write it down, super excited.

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 14, 2018 / 9:53 pm

      Yay! I’ll have to try yoga with Adrienne then xx

  18. March 15, 2018 / 1:12 pm

    I downloaded the Calm app weeks ago but have yet to use it – I really need to get on that! Meditation is on the top of my list of things I need to try this year. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 15, 2018 / 9:40 pm

      Yes – give it a go – write a blog post to let us know how you get on 🙂 xx

  19. March 16, 2018 / 10:51 pm

    This post is great, so encouraging and super informative for a novis like me, thank you! 💗 #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 18, 2018 / 7:46 pm

      No worries – yes Jen’s thoughts on her month of meditation are so helpful! xx

  20. March 20, 2018 / 2:19 pm

    This sounds amazing and I think I need to do the same. I am so guilty of flying off the handle at my toddler, regularly losing my patience, and rushing bedtime for a bit of “me time” especially when the day has been tough. I found that doing my MUTU exercises at the end of the day really helped me to destress and stay calm, I just need to get back in the habit of doing them again. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    • onamindfulmummymission
      March 20, 2018 / 8:01 pm

      Thanks Claire – yes some breathing and stillness exercises can be so helpful. xx

  21. March 21, 2018 / 9:02 pm

    I love that Zen proverb! I can use an hour a day! Oy! #thesatsesh xoxo

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