What Are Your Intentions for 2018?

New Year’s Resolutions.  How do you feel about them?

How does reading the words even make you feel?

Excited? With your heart rate quickening  and other physical cues which signpost you to notice the excitement?

Tense?  With the chest tightening, shoulders rising, blood pressure heightening?  Other signs your body is giving you that you are not comfortable with this phrase?

A notebook held up by a hand with the word resilence written on it

Admittedly making new year’s resolutions can be motivating for some.  However, they can also feel stress-inducing for others.  I suppose more sticks to beat ourselves with if we’re not careful.

So which category do you fall into when you consider new year’s resolutions?

Notice the physical sensations which happen when you think about setting yourself some.  For me, the clues are that the phrase has a negative impact on me.  Tension enters my body in the usual places.

With all of this in mind I am reminded of what Dr Tamara Russell says about the difference between setting yourself goals or setting yourself intentions in your personal or professional life. The term ‘goal-setting’ – or I suppose new year’s resolution-setting in this case – can induce very different physical sensations to the softer and more gentle idea of ‘intention-setting’.

So, with all of this in mind, I am ditching new year’s resolutions per se and setting intentions for 2018.

In fact I’m paring it down even further.  Thanks to this post from Lucy, from the blog Lucy At Home, I am taking up the challenge of choosing just one intentional word for the new year.  One word.  One word to keep in mind through the ups and downs that 2018 will no doubt include.  And my one word is:

resilience

The dictionary defines resilience as:

“the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.”

Now I’ve blogged before about how mindfulness has helped me build resilience  but there is still along way to go.

I, like many others I’m sure, take setbacks particularly personally and can be quite fragile when it comes to considering the opinions of others.   Sometimes I avoid taking risks, doing new things, ‘putting myself out there’, as a result.

However, plans are in place for this year to be one of change and if I want to continue my mission – to spread the word about mindfulness, I will need to be more resilient.  I will need to care less about setbacks with the business and the blog, as no doubt there will be some along the way.  But I must try my best not to give up.  No journey is easy after all and as I tell my students – there are always ‘bumps in the road’.

I also want to be more resilient in my personal relationships too.  Especially when it comes to parenting.  I could most definitely to be better at ‘dusting myself off’ after a parenting fail.  Mindfulness has helped me ruminate less.  However, there is always work to be done in this area.

Finally I want to model being a resilient person for my own children.

To help them, in turn, build their own resilience.

So 2018 is the year I become more resilient.

What about you?

What one word would you choose as your intentional word for 2018?

Or are you setting yourself more traditional New Year’s Resolutions?

Maybe some along these lines?

Whatever you choose I’d love to hear from you.

I’d also like to wish everyone a very happy new year and all the best for 2018.

handwritten Hayley

Bringing up Georgia

 

14 Comments

  1. December 31, 2017 / 7:27 pm

    I love this word, Hayley. It really rings true for me too – I know I often take things to heart that don’t need to be. Thank you for the mention and I wish you a happy and prosperous (and resilient) 2018 xx

    • onamindfulmummymission
      January 1, 2018 / 9:32 pm

      Awww thanks Lucy. Wishing you a fabulous and very present 2018 with lots of moments of just being xxx

  2. January 1, 2018 / 8:01 pm

    Resilience. Great word.
    I know you have read my post and I choose, revelation. Getting to know myself better. Turning 40 was a revelation in itself but now, at 46 I choose revelations about myself to help me with whatever 2018 throws at me. Happy new year to you and your lovely family. X

    • onamindfulmummymission
      January 1, 2018 / 9:32 pm

      Thanks Sophie and wishing you and yours a happy new year too. Your word revelation is a brilliant choice and you make me feel very happy that this is the year that I turn 40 in – so much to look forward to then. xx

  3. onamindfulmummymission
    January 2, 2018 / 3:14 pm

    Oooh thanks Lauren I’ll take a look. It’s also been very remiss of me not to thank you for your Christmas card – you are so good at always doing them. I hope you had a lovely Christmas xx

    • Pile o Books
      January 15, 2018 / 6:36 pm

      Oh but I’m not so great at doing other things. 🙂 Speak to you in the real world soon x

      • onamindfulmummymission
        January 15, 2018 / 7:26 pm

        Yes how has it come to this?! Communicating via wordpress! xx

  4. January 17, 2018 / 12:13 pm

    I love this idea – I think my word would have to be ‘relax’. It would have a positive impact across so many parts of my life – work, family, friendships, health, etc. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • onamindfulmummymission
      January 18, 2018 / 4:15 pm

      Totally agree! Thanks lovely xx

  5. January 21, 2018 / 9:01 pm

    Such a great word for the year, I love this. I could definitely do with being a bit more resilient. #fortheloveofBLOG

  6. January 26, 2018 / 9:08 pm

    Perfect word for the year! I feel like the energizer bunny…I keep taking hits, and getting up and going. #fortheloveofBLOG xoxo

    • onamindfulmummymission
      January 27, 2018 / 7:05 pm

      Good on you – you keep at it girl. Keep getting up xx

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