New Year’s Resolutions. How do you feel about them?
How does reading the words even make you feel?
Excited? With your heart rate quickening and other physical cues which signpost you to notice the excitement?
Tense? With the chest tightening, shoulders rising, blood pressure heightening? Other signs your body is giving you that you are not comfortable with this phrase?
Admittedly making new year’s resolutions can be motivating for some. However, they can also feel stress-inducing for others. I suppose more sticks to beat ourselves with if we’re not careful.
So which category do you fall into when you consider new year’s resolutions?
Notice the physical sensations which happen when you think about setting yourself some. For me, the clues are that the phrase has a negative impact on me. Tension enters my body in the usual places.
With all of this in mind I am reminded of what Dr Tamara Russell says about the difference between setting yourself goals or setting yourself intentions in your personal or professional life. The term ‘goal-setting’ – or I suppose new year’s resolution-setting in this case – can induce very different physical sensations to the softer and more gentle idea of ‘intention-setting’.
So, with all of this in mind, I am ditching new year’s resolutions per se and setting intentions for 2018.
In fact I’m paring it down even further. Thanks to this post from Lucy, from the blog Lucy At Home, I am taking up the challenge of choosing just one intentional word for the new year. One word. One word to keep in mind through the ups and downs that 2018 will no doubt include. And my one word is:
The dictionary defines resilience as:
“the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.”
Now I’ve blogged before about how mindfulness has helped me build resilience but there is still along way to go.
I, like many others I’m sure, take setbacks particularly personally and can be quite fragile when it comes to considering the opinions of others. Sometimes I avoid taking risks, doing new things, ‘putting myself out there’, as a result.
However, plans are in place for this year to be one of change and if I want to continue my mission – to spread the word about mindfulness, I will need to be more resilient. I will need to care less about setbacks with the business and the blog, as no doubt there will be some along the way. But I must try my best not to give up. No journey is easy after all and as I tell my students – there are always ‘bumps in the road’.
I also want to be more resilient in my personal relationships too. Especially when it comes to parenting. I could most definitely to be better at ‘dusting myself off’ after a parenting fail. Mindfulness has helped me ruminate less. However, there is always work to be done in this area.
Finally I want to model being a resilient person for my own children.
To help them, in turn, build their own resilience.
So 2018 is the year I become more resilient.
What about you?
What one word would you choose as your intentional word for 2018?
Or are you setting yourself more traditional New Year’s Resolutions?
Maybe some along these lines?
Whatever you choose I’d love to hear from you.
I’d also like to wish everyone a very happy new year and all the best for 2018.