I realise that the title of this post does not at all sound upbeat.
I really don’t mean this to be a woe is me – or particularly negative – post. It’s just an attempt to acknowledge that, much more often than used to happen, some of the plates that I am spinning fall. I’m not quite as on top of things as I once was and I’m sure writing this post will help me to be a bit more accepting of this.
I guess I’m trying to reassure myself, and anyone else juggling lots, that it’s perfectly normal to ‘be a bit rubbish’ sometimes. In fact most people would expect a twin mum to not always be ‘on top of her game’. People, especially friends and work colleagues, are often a lot less judgemental than we give them credit for.
So here is my list:
Remembering Friends’ Birthdays
I used to pride myself on getting Birthday cards to friends on the right date. Now it should be celebrated if I get a text sent on the right date and the old Facebook Birthday announcement has definitely helped me out on more than one occasion. Last week it was a very dear friend’s 40th Birthday. It kept popping into my mind that I needed to get a card in the post and yet I felt awful when I realised a couple of days after that I had totally missed the day. I hope that she understands that this wasn’t indicative of our friendship, but more indicative of how much is going on in my head right now. Also, did I mention we had Ofsted too last week??? Another Birthday fail is that I have a card in my handbag for a friend’s 2 year old daughter but her Birthday was the beginning of September! It really is too late now to hand it over.
Keeping the House Tidy
Our house is generally a tip – see this post for a picture of how our living room can often end up looking like at the end of a day or this post for the state of my son’s bedroom after a playdate. I feel like I’m constantly keeping on top of the kitchen and therefore all the other rooms do look like bombs have hit them most of the time. I’ve resigned myself to the fact that I will never have that ‘showhome ready’ look for a while (or ever!) and that’s just fine with me.
Going For a Mad Night Out
There is no way I can drink the way I used to. I steer clear of mixing drinks. In fact I steer clear of spirits in general as I just can’t cope with a hangover with three children who seem to be ‘larks’ and love to be up at the crack of dawn. I suppose, compared to my former self, some may say I’m a bit boring on a night out now but I still have fun and that’s all that matters.
As I talked about here I am definitely failing on the sleep front. In fact nobody really sleeps enough in our family. It saddens me, as I think that’s where lots of the grumpiness with each other stems from, so this is one area I would love to improve soon. However, on the positive I am probably get better at coping with less sleep.
Crafting and Painting
I used to get the crafts and paints out quite a lot with our eldest but it’s much less common for me to don the aprons with the twins. For obvious reasons. We do however make the most of any opportunities to do crafting and painting at playgroups so I’m sure they don’t miss out too much.
Responding to Texts and Emails
I used to pride myself on being a super reliable person when it came to getting back to people’s messages. However, these days I am likely to take hours, if not days, to respond to someone and sometimes it can slip my mind completely. I’m hoping nobody takes this personally and I realise everyone is in the same boat when it comes to how hectic our lives can be. Still I do feel incredibly rude sometimes when I realise I forgot to respond to a message or e-mail.
Okay so that’s my list. And do you know what? I’m kinda fine with it. I would rather be a better friend when it comes to remembering special days etc. but I’m sure that my friends understand that I’m in the thick of it at the moment and I won’t be so disorganised forever. It’s just the point in my life that I’m at.
There are things I have got better at too – multi-tasking when I need to, being efficient and being better at prioritising what’s important, to name but a few.
I’d love to hear form you if you are a parent of multiples. Is there anything else you would add to this list?
I’m sure this list rings true for other parents too.
If so I’d love to know which ones apply to you too.
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