How to Get Motivated.

Last week I went running for the first time in ages.

Yesterday I went to a spin class for the first time in nearly three years.

Why?  Because I went with friends.

In other words I got myself a ‘buddy’.  A ‘running buddy’ one evening and a ‘spinning buddy’ the other.

A buddy, in this sense, is someone to commit to doing something with.  It’s sometimes the extra motivation needed to ensure we don’t just collapse in a heap on the sofa every evening.

How to get Motivated title pic with 2 sets of trainers

My physical and mental wellbeing benefit from cardio exercise and mindful meditation. Yet sometimes I feel so tired I struggle to engage in these things even though I know how important they are for me.  However, I also hate to be unreliable or ‘flaky’ so a ‘running buddy’ or ‘gym buddy’ works well for me.  Once I commit to something, I tend to do it.  So as a result arranging to meet someone for a 7.30pm run means it is much more likely to happen.  Or it could just an evening stroll.  It doesn’t really matter – getting some fresh air and increasing my step count, as well as chatting with a friend is a good thing.

Don’t get me wrong I love a catch up over a glass of wine as much as the next woman but sometimes it’s good to mix it up a little.

I’m sure a ‘mindfulness buddy’ would be very helpful too.  A friend who has just started working through the seminal book ‘Frantic World’ by Mark Williams and Danny Penman told me that she has a ‘mindfulness buddy’.  They don’t actually do the formal practices together (though this would be extremely motivating and would be great if it was practical to do so), but they do text each other support and encouragement.  This motivates them to regularly do the practices associated with the different chapters of the book and there is a certain amount of ‘checking up’ on each other too which is helpful.  If someone is finding one particular meditation tricky, it’s also really good for them to check how the buddy is finding that week’s practice, and to bounce ideas off each other about what works and what doesn’t.  I would love a ‘mindfulness buddy’ as it sounds like a really helpful way of keeping up with practice.

If you’ve read some of my posts like this one and found the tips helpful then it may be time to truly get to grips with mindfulness by booking yourself on a course (MBSR, MBCT or the workplaceMT ones that I run).  However, if this is just not possible right now then having a buddy sounds like the next best thing.  Anything is better than nothing after all.

So if you need some motivation to improve your physical and mental wellbeing but can’t get to a meditation group, exercise class or running club? Get yourself a buddy.  They will be the impetus you need to get off the sofa in the evening.




  1. May 25, 2017 / 6:34 am

    The buddy system is a good idea I haven’t thought of yet. Thanks 🙂

  2. May 25, 2017 / 10:52 am

    Its a great idea to have a motivational buddy for all different parts of life. What a great suggestion. Will also check out the book ‘frantic world’ you suggest. It sounds really good. #ablogginggoodtime

  3. May 25, 2017 / 8:02 pm

    Really helpful advice, I think it is really helpful to just stop and take a minute of your surroundings X #ablogginggoodtime

  4. May 25, 2017 / 8:26 pm

    What a brilliant idea. I used to walk with a friend but we stopped for winter and never started again. I think I will call her. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

  5. May 30, 2017 / 4:23 pm

    YES! Im all about finding your tribe or tribes! Having different friends for different things can really motivate you do get into doing things you would have previously thought of as scary! #ablogginggoodtime

  6. May 30, 2017 / 10:03 pm

    Sounds like a good plan to me. #ablogginggoodtime

  7. May 31, 2017 / 5:37 pm

    I’m the opposite & hate exercising with anyone else!! #ablogginggoodtime

  8. June 4, 2017 / 3:33 pm

    Oh yeah…You can call it a mindfulness or gym buddy or a friend who will smack you into next week if you don’t show up-Whatever pleases you! No matter what name you land on, having a partner to hold you accountable most definiely makes you show up and get you going! I can talk myself out of pretty much ANYTHING, but if I think I am inconveniencing a friend I won’t back out!!!

    Great post!


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