Living with a Mum on a Mindfulness Mission

I’m sure, like me, those of you of a certain age were very happy to see Cold Feet return to our screens again recently.

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The series didn’t disappoint with warmth and humour in abundance.  In addition, the story line given to Jon Thomson’s character Pete revolved around the serious theme of mental health, and more specifically someone who was dealing with depression.  However, the show gave it a lighter slant when Pete tried Mindfulness.  Though it was a fairly stereotypical portrayal of the practices (the raisin scene had me in stitches while the snippet of the class left me cringing), it was good to see it being publicised on mainstream TV.   Although Pete found Mindfulness really helpful, his wife Jenny was less convinced, and it left me wondering how my husband really views my attachment to living mindfully.

So I thought I’d do some digging and ask him a few questions.  Here is the first attempt:

Me: What does Mindfulness mean to you?

Him:  Something to do with raisins?

Me:  Initially how did you view Mindfulness?

Him:  As an excuse to lie down.

Me: What do you consider the impact on family life of a one of the parents practicing Mindfulness?

Him:  More childcare duties for the other one.

Me:  Has Mindfulness noticeably changed me since practicing it?

Him:  Yes – see my previous answer.

Me:  Do you think Mindfulness has changed you?  How important does formal mindful meditative practice seem?

Yes – see above.  Very – I need to an excuse to lie down too……

Mmmm I could see this wasn’t going the way I had envisaged, and as I feared, though outwardly very supportive of my attachment to mindful living I did appear to have a sceptic on my hands.

So I went away (took some deep breaths!) and then tried again.

This time round after being bribed with beer to take the ‘interview’ seriously I got some interesting responses which encouraged me to continue my mission to practice mindfulness as much as a busy Mum possibly can.  Here are his more thoughtful answers:

Me: What does Mindfulness mean to you?

Him:  Living in the present moment and not getting too bound up in negative thoughts and worries  (Me:  oooooh so you have been listening to me a bit!)

Me:  Initially how did you view Mindfulness?

Him:  To start with I thought it was some kind of meditation practice that offered someone a rest from the day.  Now I can see that it is more than that and can offer a great range of benefits.

Me: What do you consider the impact on family life of one of the parents practicing Mindfulness?

Him:  It has certainly helped bring more calmness more often to our home.  I also think it has influenced how we speak to, and interact with the children, and each other (Methis is sounding more promising :-))

Me:  Has Mindfulness noticeably changed me since I have been practicing it?

Him:  Yes – you are calmer, more content and seem more resilient (Me:  Ahhhhh that’s nice that you have noticed….)

Me:  Do you think Mindfulness has changed you?  How important does formal mindful meditative practice seem to be to you?

Him:  Although I haven’t done any formal training or practice I’ve seen how much it has helped you.  If you do a guided body scan last thing at night then I tend to follow it too (Me:  Yay – I knew it, I knew you were listening too).   I’m trying to apply some of the principles to home and work life now – mostly to help bring patience, focus and positivity to more challenging situations.

From reading some of your posts and articles you’ve shared it’s reminded me of some of the things I previously took from sport – being in the moment, playful, present, and focused.  As I no longer do sport seriously (Me:  funny that – with 3 kids to look after…) it took me back to considering the fundamentals of high-performance and how to apply these to my work as it can sometimes be high pressured and there is time when stress needs to be managed.  Though I can see the formal meditations are important for some people, Mindfulness is having a positive impact on me without really doing many.

In fact I actually went to a session on Mindfulness at work which was really well attended and very interesting so clearly it’s not just you who thinks it’s any good!  (Me:  Wow! I hadn’t really realised you’d been thinking of Mindfulness in this way…)

Me:  So back to the inspiration for this post – are you Pete or Jenny?

Him:  I’m a Penny!!!! (Me:  Ha, ha, ha – I’ll take that as a win!)


To me this seems incredibly positive and hopefully shows the benefits, for a whole family, of even just one person practicing mindfulness in the household.

If my hubby can be persuaded to the benefits of Mindfulness then it it my belief that lots of people can.

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  1. November 16, 2016 / 10:55 pm

    I also think that it can give a huge benefit to whole family. Mindfulness is really important and if I could be calmer after that training its something what I need

    • November 17, 2016 / 8:21 pm

      So good to hear others talking about the benefits of Mindfulness for the whole family. Thanks for commenting. x

  2. November 17, 2016 / 11:02 am

    This is brilliant, I love that mindfulness has had such a positive impact on your whole family. I chuckled at your partner’s first answers – sounded a lot like the kind of thing my husband would say, too!! It did make me laugh when I saw it on cold feet. I still need to find out a bit more about it and really start implementing it in my everyday life. #FamilyFun

    • November 17, 2016 / 8:20 pm

      Pleased the post made you chuckle Ellen. Yes once you start reading about Mindfulness it makes a lot of sense. Thanks for commenting. xx

  3. November 18, 2016 / 4:02 pm

    What a great post. Isn’t it amazing how your approach to mindfulness has spread and had a positive influence in the family! Loved this! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

  4. November 19, 2016 / 10:06 am

    Well it seems like your husband is learning! I think mindfulness is very important and I was like your husband and thought it was about meditation but it’s really about a state of mind, lovely post really great to here a different perspective : ). #fortheloveofblog

    • November 20, 2016 / 10:12 pm

      So pleased people are beginning to see that Mindfulness is a state of mind as well as meditative practice. Thanks for commenting. xx

  5. twotinyhands
    November 19, 2016 / 7:26 pm

    I was chuckling at his first answers and laughed that you had to bribe him with beer! I think it’s great that he’s picked up on your changes and values it and you. Loving oh! Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

  6. November 19, 2016 / 9:50 pm

    Ah yay thats amazing! It must feel so nice hearing him say all that. I am trying my best with mindfulness, goodness knows I need it sometimes. I think I still have some way to go though. I love reading your posts they motivate me and keep me going on my mindful journey – this one more than ever. Thank you for sharing it with us at #familyfun

    • November 20, 2016 / 10:03 pm

      Ah that’s so nice to hear Sarah – thanks so much for the words of encouragement and so pleased my blog is some help. Really good luck with your Mindfulness journey. xx

  7. Rainbows are too beautiful
    November 20, 2016 / 11:14 pm

    Great series – look fed to more

  8. November 21, 2016 / 1:39 pm

    I loved your little comments throughout his answers. It reminded me of my own voice inside my head when talking to my hubby! I’m glad he can see the benefits of all your hard work. He totally gets is and is on board, even if he pretends he isn’t!! #GlobalBlogging

    • November 21, 2016 / 10:11 pm

      Ha ha – yes you are so right – he doesn get it doesn’t he?! Thanks so much for commenting x

  9. November 21, 2016 / 2:15 pm

    Aww that must be so lovely to hear. It’s amazing what they do actually take in. I practice mindfulness and it helps me and my family so much, everyone benefits #globalblogging

    • November 21, 2016 / 10:11 pm

      So pleased to find another blogger into Mindfulness – thanks for commenting x

  10. November 21, 2016 / 7:54 pm

    #eatsleepblogRT I love this, what a top bloke. It’s obvs making your lives better, good can only be contagious.
    Long may the mission continue

    • November 21, 2016 / 10:09 pm

      Ah well said Mrs – and yep he does have his moments 😉 x

  11. alisonlonghurst
    November 22, 2016 / 8:59 am

    This is such an interesting post. It’s almost hearing the skeptic’s point of view, but he has certainly been won over. I like the idea that the emphasis isn’t on meditation, because whenever I meditate, I fall asleep! Thank you to you and your hubby for sharing. Alison x #mg

    • November 22, 2016 / 9:11 pm

      Ah thanks for the lovely comment Alison and pleased it shows that Mindfulness is more than just the meditation. I’ll pass on the thanks to my hubby too :-). x

  12. November 22, 2016 / 8:54 pm

    I’ve never heard of the series “cold feet” before. But listening to your husband it sounds like your household seems to be calmer. I could definitely use a bit of that! 🙂 Thanks for sharing with us! #globalblogging

    • November 22, 2016 / 9:13 pm

      Ahhhh yes I think lots of us love a calm household! Thanks for commenting x

  13. November 23, 2016 / 11:40 am

    This is fascinating. I love that you had to add beer to get honest answers, it’s the same in our house! Mindfulness is something we are trying to explore as a family. Thank you so much for being a part of the #bigpinklink it’s great to have you with us!

    • November 23, 2016 / 8:58 pm

      Ah no worries – thanks for the lovely comment and I really hope you and your family find Mindfulness helpful. xx

  14. Alana - Burnished Chaos
    November 23, 2016 / 10:02 pm

    Great post. I definitely need more mindfulness in my life!

  15. mackenzieglanville
    November 26, 2016 / 7:04 am

    I think it really does have benefits for the whole family. Mindfulness helped me so much with dealing with all the stress I was struggling to cope with a couple of year ago and really it is what inspired my journey back to writing and discovering love for myself for the first time ever. It is great to see your hubby is taking notice and seeing benefits, a gorgeous post! #mg

    • November 26, 2016 / 8:44 am

      Thanks for the comment – I’m so pleased that you find Mindfulness really helpful too. I was actually hoping you may want to take part in my new guest series ‘Mindfulness and Me’ at some point. Please do take a look – I’m sure lots of my readers would love to hear about your journey. Thanks again for all the support. x

      • mackenzieglanville
        November 26, 2017 / 11:34 am

        oh thank you I will have to look into this. Also thank you for hosting #TheSatSesh

  16. November 18, 2017 / 8:06 pm

    Really interested to see how the other partner views it, great idea to ask about these things regularly so you know where each other are coming from or feeling. #thesatsesh

  17. November 19, 2017 / 5:33 am

    I loved the first half, its so funny and aggravating. Lol. Very nice interview. Loved reading it. #thesatsesh

  18. November 19, 2017 / 6:50 am

    I loved his first answers. That’s exactly how my husband would have responded too. I’m glad he has really been paying attention though. It’s nice to see such a positive impact on the whole family. #thesatsesh

  19. November 19, 2017 / 10:20 am

    Brilliant, I love the idea mindfulness is an excuse to lie down, brilliant! X #thesatsesh

  20. November 20, 2017 / 8:38 pm

    Haha, I liked your first interview!
    I really need to work on bringing mindfulness into my life, I think even if they aren’t practising it themselves the family could benefit. A calmer mum would change the whole family…I just wish I could make it stick!

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    • onamindfulmummymission
      November 21, 2017 / 10:00 pm

      Definitely! I totally agree…. it’s just keeping at it… none of us are perfect… XX

  21. November 22, 2017 / 9:24 pm

    #thesatsesh popping back thanks to our lovely linky and agree still, your mission is far from over. Mindfulness is your super power x keep spreading the love

    • onamindfulmummymission
      November 23, 2017 / 4:35 pm

      Thanks lovely xx

  22. November 24, 2017 / 8:10 pm

    I remember reading this first time round. It stil, makes me laugh that you had to bribe him with beer in order to get serious answers, my husband would be exactly the same!

  23. November 26, 2017 / 12:07 am

    I think mindfulness for 1 can help the whole group! And I admit, that I could use some more. Perhaps we can arrange for a special visit to set us all on the right track! I try, but I can veer off all too easily. Thank you! #thesatsesh

  24. February 25, 2018 / 11:39 am

    A really brilliant read and lovely to hear how mindfulness can be beneficial to all X #thesatsesh

    • onamindfulmummymission
      February 25, 2018 / 8:20 pm

      Thank you xx

  25. February 27, 2018 / 9:26 pm

    #thesatsesh popping back to link up. I remember reading this post when you first wrote it…I wonder how his perceptions of mindfulness will alter and also how you incorporate it over the years will change?

    • onamindfulmummymission
      February 27, 2018 / 9:31 pm

      Mmmm – I may have to interview him again! Good questions xx

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