Wicked Wednesdays #11: Mealtimes – the ultimate test of Mindfulness

Family mealtimes – you’ve got to love them….right?!

Pre-kids I had a romantic vision of special times sat together round the tea table chatting, laughing even.

Pah – how wrong was I?  Firstly, I find I rarely sit down.  I am up and down like a blinking yo-yo for numerous reasons that I can’t quite recall right now as mealtimes are such a blur.

Secondly, I often find that if I am laughing it’s because I’m slightly hysterical and the old adage of ‘if you don’t laugh, you’ll cry’ could never be truer.

Basically there are lots of moments during mealtimes at your place when my attempts at approaching life mindfully  is tested to the limit.

Sometimes I succeed in remaining calm by ‘connecting with my breath’ in the mindful way (maybe a bit like this 7/11 exercise).

At other times I try to remind myself to be empathetic.  For example I try hard to empathise with twin 1 – keeping in mind that her language is not yet as well developed as her siblings’ and so the only way to tell me when she’s finished her food is to tip the plate upside down and throw food all over the floor!

One day last week it was getting so tricky keeping the twins at the table (yes they are like little Houdini’s at climbing out of their high-chairs) that we gave them some props.  The books quickly got disregarded but the sunglasses were a hit!

Ok, so I could beat myself up about ‘sloppy parenting’ but Mindfulness is about being non-judgmental and showing oneself some self-compassion so I think I’ll just give myself a break, enjoy the fun and treasure these lovely photos that I was able to take!

How are mealtimes at your place?

Any top tips for making mealtimes less stressful?

My Wicked Wednesdays posts are inspired by the fabulous Brummy Mummy of 2 and her encouragement of us to share‘real’ family photos in her Wicked Wednesdays linky.

brummymummyof2
Two Tiny Hands
Diary of an imperfect mum
Diary of An Imperfect Mum

 

20 thoughts on “Wicked Wednesdays #11: Mealtimes – the ultimate test of Mindfulness

  1. You shouldn’t beat yourself up as this looks like a lovely meal time compared with ours! The props look fab – you are very brave! It’s so hard to keep calm when they are lobbing food and standing up in their high chairs….I think it’s great your sticking to being mindful (I’m not very good at it 😩) #wickedwednesday

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  2. Oh, I’m loving those glasses. Having gone through the ‘I want to feed myself’ stage with my grandson and got the spoon work good, he now finds he is incapable of doing the job and wants to be fed again. Aarrgghhh!
    #familyfun

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  3. Oh I had that romantic vision of meal times too. Suffice to say it has fallen short. Like you I never sit somebody always wants something and I am up more than I am down. I say whatever gets you through and gets food into the little ones. You will find no judgment from me and nothing but compassion from a fellow mum who will try anything to keep the kids at the table! Thanks for sharing at #familyfun

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