Family mealtimes – you’ve got to love them….right?!
Pre-kids I had a romantic vision of special times sat together round the tea table chatting, laughing even.
Pah – how wrong was I? Firstly, I find I rarely sit down. I am up and down like a blinking yo-yo for numerous reasons that I can’t quite recall right now as mealtimes are such a blur.
Secondly, I often find that if I am laughing it’s because I’m slightly hysterical and the old adage of ‘if you don’t laugh, you’ll cry’ could never be truer.
Basically there are lots of moments during mealtimes at your place when my attempts at approaching life mindfully is tested to the limit.
Sometimes I succeed in remaining calm by ‘connecting with my breath’ in the mindful way (maybe a bit like this 7/11 exercise).
At other times I try to remind myself to be empathetic. For example I try hard to empathise with twin 1 – keeping in mind that her language is not yet as well developed as her siblings’ and so the only way to tell me when she’s finished her food is to tip the plate upside down and throw food all over the floor!
One day last week it was getting so tricky keeping the twins at the table (yes they are like little Houdini’s at climbing out of their high-chairs) that we gave them some props. The books quickly got disregarded but the sunglasses were a hit!
Ok, so I could beat myself up about ‘sloppy parenting’ but Mindfulness is about being non-judgmental and showing oneself some self-compassion so I think I’ll just give myself a break, enjoy the fun and treasure these lovely photos that I was able to take!
How are mealtimes at your place?
Any top tips for making mealtimes less stressful?
My Wicked Wednesdays posts are inspired by the fabulous Brummy Mummy of 2 and her encouragement of us to share‘real’ family photos in her Wicked Wednesdays linky.